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Lessons from a Sex Therapist Parent
I spent this weekend binge-watching the new Netflix series Sex Education. In the series the main character is a teenage son of a sex therapist single mother. I thought this might be a good opportunity to talk about some of the good things and not so good things that...
What sex is healthy?
So now that you have been looking at our webpage and seeing the kind of work that we do you may be wondering to yourself, how do we define what is sexually healthy? This is a really important question and it is one we have to think about a lot. It is easy to make...
The Basics on Fetishes
Even though the concept of fetishes does not appear under this acronym of BDSM, many kinksters get super turned on by certain objects or body parts. Modern kinksters generally reject the Freudian conception of fetishes as evidence of a malfunctioning or immature...
What is BDSM?
BDSM, also called kinky sex, is an umbrella category for all sorts of sex games and interactions. At the base of all kinky sex is the consensual exchange of power, where people negotiate together about what they do and do not want to happen in the sexy play. Often the...
Gender 101
As we move past National Coming Out Day (October 11th) and the First International Pronoun Day (October 17th), we thought we’d take a moment to educate our clients on gender identities and pronouns. Before we fully launch, we wanted to stress that sexuality and gender...
I’m a Social Justice Healer not a Social Justice Warrior
We each have a part to play in trying to make our world a more just and equitable place to be. Not all of us can be social justice warriors. We may not have the skill or the energy to be out in the streets fighting. There are of course other things we can do to help...
Adding Sex Back to Discussions of Ethical Non-Monogamy
In the past 7 years since I have been working in sex therapy with people who identify as polyamorous or ethically non-monogamous, I’ve noticed something. The professionals never talk about the sex. I go to sex therapy conferences and a variety of other conferences to...
Mindfulness for the not so mindful
So, if you’ve seen me as a client, or even if you haven’t, someone has probably recommended that you try mindfulness. I hear your concerns. It feels sometimes like people offer it as a panacea or like it's a way people are telling you that your mental health symptoms...
Body acceptance not body positivity
So, by now you have all learned about body positivity. It's a movement that has been put together by people trying to help everyone learn to love and accept their bodies. This sounds like a lovely idea. All of us working to be able to see ourselves with more kindness...