The Pincus Center

The 2024 election results are frightening and stressful for everyone, but especially for transgender kids and their parents. If your child is gender diverse and you’re unsure how to protect them from our government, find out where to start.

approx. 6 minutes reading time Let me be honest– even as a sex educator, I never thought sexual fantasy would actually improve my sex life. But it has, and I want to share that vulnerable experience with you. My name is Cassidy and I am non-binary, on the asexual spectrum, white, and partnered. After many years of having uninspiring, neutral, or forgettable sexual experiences, I can see now that...

estimated reading time ~5 minutes Real talk: Our deeply fat-hating, fatphobic culture isn’t going to heal itself. And as valuable as the tireless work of fat activists is, it’s also not enough to create the inclusive, body-affirming world we dream of. We need straight-sized allies to actively work with us to change the status quo. Why should you be an ally to fat liberation? Well, obviously, it...

Some time ago, we began to see posts going around on social media about your new film, The Whale, starring Brendan Fraser in what’s being hailed as his “comeback role” as Charlie, a 600 lb. recluse and food addict. Immediately, our hearts sank. We didn’t need more than the title and a photo of Fraser in a fat suit to tell us everything we needed to know about the fatphobia at the heart of this...

approx. 8 minute reading time It’s hard enough to deal with the stress and overwhelm of the winter holiday season when you’re excited for it and ready to celebrate. When the holidays are a time of grief, depression, economic hardship, or just deep apathy, every day can feel like a fight to survive until spring. You’re not alone. The National Alliance on Mental Illness found in a survey that...

We’re not okay. At a time when our biggest worry should be how to manage or avoid holiday season stress, our queer community is under attack. The Club Q shooting in Colorado Springs just before Thanksgiving now seems like it may be joined by a domestic terrorist attack on a power plant in Moore County, NC for the purpose of shutting down a local drag show. Anti-trans legislation attempts...

approx. 9 minute reading time Taking your first steps into polyamory is a lot like being American and planning to move to the UK. Everything is just different enough to throw you off, and you quickly realize that even though everyone’s speaking English, you still have to learn a lot of new language. One of the first words most people encounter when they explore nonmonogamy is “compersion”, which...

approx. 5 minutes reading time Did your heart just seize up a little reading that title? It’s not surprising—we live in a society where we’d rather give kids fear-based “abstinence only” propaganda than comprehensive sex ed, where queer people who professionally interact with kids or teens (teachers, for example) risk being labeled pedophiles or groomers, and where kink is still equated with...

approx. reading time: 10 minutes Imagine if you took a cooking class, but instead of learning to follow a recipe or how ingredients interact, you got a lot of lectures about the ways that different foods can be bad for you and how you should be fasting except when you absolutely must eat to survive. Imagine that you were told that the food pyramid of the 1990s was the only morally correct way to...

Tell me if this sounds familiar: “It’s not that I don’t like sex, or don’t want to have it at all. It just takes me a while to get there.” We get sold a lot of lies about sexuality and how we “should” be sexual, and one of the more harmful ones is the idea that being sexually “normal” means being instantly aroused at the thought of getting it on. The truth is, we all need the right circumstances...