What Is Compersion in Polyamory—and Why Don’t I Have It?

Relationships

approx. 9 minute reading time Taking your first steps into polyamory is a lot like being American and planning to move to the UK. Everything is just different enough to throw you off, and you quickly realize that even though everyone’s speaking English, you still have...

Why We Should Talk to Young People About Kink & BDSM

Sexuality

approx. 5 minutes reading time Did your heart just seize up a little reading that title? It’s not surprising—we live in a society where we’d rather give kids fear-based “abstinence only” propaganda than comprehensive sex ed, where queer people who professionally...

9 Myths About Sex That Are Just Plain Wrong—and Harmful

Sexuality

approx. reading time: 10 minutes Imagine if you took a cooking class, but instead of learning to follow a recipe or how ingredients interact, you got a lot of lectures about the ways that different foods can be bad for you and how you should be fasting except when you...

RSVP Needed: Do You Have Responsive Desire?

Sexuality

Tell me if this sounds familiar: “It’s not that I don’t like sex, or don’t want to have it at all. It just takes me a while to get there.” We get sold a lot of lies about sexuality and how we “should” be sexual, and one of the more harmful ones is the idea that being...

How Do I Know If I’m Really Polyamorous?

Relationships

approx. 10 minute reading time Becoming actively polyamorous, for many of us, isn’t a simple choice. If you’re involved with anyone, you have to make sure they’re a willing (and ideally eager) partner in this adventure. If you’re not, you might have to find new places...

First-Time Sex Shouldn’t Hurt. Let’s Stop Telling Young People It Will.

Body Acceptance, Sexuality

estimated reading time: 7 minutes It’s the trope of countless bodice-ripper romances, movies, and TV shows: the young, naïve flower of womanhood going trembling to her marriage bed or the backseat of a car, bracing herself for the searing pain of her brooding...