The Transformative Power of Sexual Fantasies

Sexuality

approx. 6 minutes reading time Let me be honest– even as a sex educator, I never thought sexual fantasy would actually improve my sex life. But it has, and I want to share that vulnerable experience with you. My name is Cassidy and I am non-binary, on the asexual...

Why We Should Talk to Young People About Kink & BDSM

Sexuality

approx. 5 minutes reading time Did your heart just seize up a little reading that title? It’s not surprising—we live in a society where we’d rather give kids fear-based “abstinence only” propaganda than comprehensive sex ed, where queer people who professionally...

9 Myths About Sex That Are Just Plain Wrong—and Harmful

Sexuality

approx. reading time: 10 minutes Imagine if you took a cooking class, but instead of learning to follow a recipe or how ingredients interact, you got a lot of lectures about the ways that different foods can be bad for you and how you should be fasting except when you...

RSVP Needed: Do You Have Responsive Desire?

Sexuality

Tell me if this sounds familiar: “It’s not that I don’t like sex, or don’t want to have it at all. It just takes me a while to get there.” We get sold a lot of lies about sexuality and how we “should” be sexual, and one of the more harmful ones is the idea that being...

First-Time Sex Shouldn’t Hurt. Let’s Stop Telling Young People It Will.

Body Acceptance, Sexuality

estimated reading time: 7 minutes It’s the trope of countless bodice-ripper romances, movies, and TV shows: the young, naïve flower of womanhood going trembling to her marriage bed or the backseat of a car, bracing herself for the searing pain of her brooding...

You Don’t Owe Anyone an Orgasm (Even Yourself)

Body Acceptance, Sexuality

9 minute reading time Let’s be clear on one thing: Orgasms are great! This is in no way an anti-climax (ha see what I did there) post. But I AM going to offer the hot take that orgasms are not a requirement for great sex, and they’re not a measure of anyone’s sexual...