With Masturb@tion May coming to an end soon, we wanted to be sure you keep the love going. Here are some tips for preparing for a self-love session in any month:
- Context: Be mindful of the context that got you into the mood! Be aware of it and keep it in the back of your mind for the future. Many people need the right context to get their sexual desire to come online: low stress and erotic sensation, like touch, visual or auditory.
- Environment: Make the environment yummy for you! How can you engage the five sense? Lights on? Shades on the windows up or down? Light a candle or incense? Soft blanket? Adjust the temperature? Make it most comfy for you.
- Body Adornment: How will you adorn your body during this session? Sensual lingerie? Under the clothes you are wearing? Would it feel nice to put some jewelry on or pull out those crotchless stockings you haven’t worn yet?
- Imagination: Will a fantasy be guiding you for this session? Will you be thinking about a time when you experienced the best pleasure or when you were providing pleasure to a lover?Will you spend some time listening or reading some erotica? It’s okay to use your imagination! It’s always worth talking with your partner but many folks have fantasies that involve others than their partners. Thoughts are not behaviors.
- Whole Body: Do you need to show some love to your whole body by using a body oil? Folks find involving the whole body in their session helps them find areas they never knew would be an erogenous zone for them. Play with pressure from the head to the toes. Breathe and focus on the sensation between your hands and skin.
- Lube: Dry? Slippy-slidey? Tingling? Silicone? Waterbased? Hybrid? Find a texture you like and if you find yourself irritated after using lube, check the ingredients.
- Toys: Switch things up from hands to toys. So many toys are available. It may take a bit to find a body-safe toy, so do your research. If you need more support, check out our empowerment classes.
- Cleanup: Nothing is worse than not having a clean toy to use when you want to use it. Clean up yourself and the items you were using. A mild soap or a toy cleaner will do the job and be sure to scrub nooks and crannies. Use body wipes or grab a shower to clean yourself up.
- Aftercare: Melt into the feeling. Thank yourself for taking the time. Take a few deep breathes. Provide yourself with a loving caress or hug.